Symptoms of self-loathing
People who struggle with depression or anxiety can often have a running internal monologue of self-loathing thoughts. Some of the following may be typical:
– I am worthless.
– I deserve the pain from my mistakes.
– I deserve to be treated poorly.
– I feel things differently than other people – they are better than I am.
I am weak, pathetic, and too sensitive.
– I am stupid for being hurt by this, and people will laugh at me if I admit that I am hurting.
– I don’t deserve to be comforted.
– People just put up with me.
– I hurt everyone; people should stay away from me.
– People expect the worst of me; why bother trying?
– Everything I do is a disaster.
– I can’t live up to anyone’s expectations.
– I’m a failure at everything.
How to Interrupt Negative Self-Talk:
If you struggle with depression or self-loathing, it is important to see a therapist so that you can work together to find a combination of therapy and medication that can assist you. The following things are commonly used to interrupt negative self-talk and thoughts of despair and worthlessness:
– Treat yourself the way you treat your friends. You deserve better than hating yourself.
– Do something different – stand up, take a walk, sing – to interrupt the negative self-talk.
– Take a few moments and breathe deeply, breathing in your surroundings.
– Talk back to the negative self-talk. If it’s saying, “I’m worthless,” say “I’m awesome.”
– Talk with it; exaggerate whatever the negative self-talk. Either it’ll make you cry or laugh.
– Visualize yourself as a worthy person.
– Question the validity of the negative self-talk.
– Identify the reasons for the negative self-talk, write them down, then come up with reasons that the negative self-talk is wrong.