• He/she blames you for their anger
(Note: There is a difference between having a bad day, and always being blamed for upsetting someone.)
• He/ she sees themselves as a helpless victim; they have no sense of personal responsibility
• He/ she has a substance abuse problem or addiction.
• He/ she has trouble managing intense feelings, such as anger and rage.
• He /she has a history of aggression and reacting violently.
• He/ she threatens you and others regularly.
• He/ she insults you, puts you down and call you names.
• He/ she dictates your life – what you should wear, who you can spend time with, how you should act etc.
• He/ she tries to isolate you from family, friends or others who could help you (as they could influence how you see the abusive relationship).
• He/ she breaks, throws away, or “loses” items that matter to you when you upset them
• He/ she makes you doubt yourself and your sanity. For example, through blowing trivial things out of proportion so that they escalate into huge arguments. (This is believed to a form of mind control.)
• He/ she accuses you of creating imaginary problems in the relationship – just to provoke an argument.
• He/ she says derogatory and hurtful things to you – but later says that you imagined it.
• You start doing things you don’t want to do just to stop them getting angry with you, or ending the relationship.
- He/she is a Passive-Aggressive Psycho